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I have a confession to make. I looked in the mirror this morning and did not like what I saw. Bushy eyebrows, disheveled hair that needed clipping, mismatched socks, a shirt with a tear on it and pants with remnants of baby milk on it. Did I forget to do the laundry? Had I been robbed at gun point? No, this had been a “normal” morning in between temper tantrums, checking homework folders, cooking breakfast while taking business calls. To make matter worse when I left the house I felt like I looked fine until I happened to go into the bathroom at my workplace and caught a glimpse of my image. My first instinct was to say, “what the h#$%!” Then the thought came in my head… I look like a mother.
Now before someone says did she not know she as a mother after she birthed a three, screaming children. This new revelation is not me realizing I am a mother (hell I know that every morning I have to make three different stops in the morning) but this is more about I have succumbed to the fear of every woman–looking motherly. You see these “motherly woman” types in mom friendly settings–parks, grocery stores, malls, etc. They are usually wearing loose, baggy clothing that never seems to quite go together, they always looked rushed and there is usually a screaming toddler or embarrassed teenager following them. So how did I a successful, professional, 31 year old “self proclaimed diva” get to looking like this?
There are several answers..two children that are only 20 months apart, a busy career and my midnight career of a bourgening blogger. Honestly there are mornings that I literally get dressed in the dark. I grab whatever fits, style my hair, brush my teeth (barely) and then rush and get the kids ready. No more do I put on my well coordinated Banana Republic pant suits, instead I usually wear my Old Navy Maternity Slacks, cotton shirt, blazer and a comfortable pair of flats.The sad part is that my kids never look like me. They are always neat, clean and look like they’ve stepped out of a J. Crew commercial. One morning my (hater) hubby (lol) looked at me and remarked, “umm..is that what your going to wear?” Embarrassed I reluctantly stomped upstairs and got redressed (lol). That might of been the only day that week I actually looked my age.
So what do I do to get rid of this mommy curse? Well I have came to a couple of conclusions:
1.) I am donating all of my maternity clothes to Goodwill. Yes, I must confess I have been wearing my maternity pants because they are so comfortable.
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2.) I am going to shop for an entire new wardrobe. Yes, I have not bought a lot of new clothing since 2008 when my daughter was born. **smacks self on head**Within the next two months I will be fulfilling every woman’s dreams by going to a local mall or boutique and buying every peice of clothing I even remotely like.
3.) I am going to color my hair. I love my natural hair but sometimes chemicals are needed so I will be looking for something bold, funky… you know..non motherly like.
4.) Instead of staying up all night lurking on Facebook or updating my blog, I am going to coordinate the night before my wardrobe and anything else I need so that I won’t be tempted to grab something crazy to wear.
5.) Last but not least, I have already scheduled a spa day for me–with no kids anywhere in sight. I need a facial, manicure, pedicure, eyebrows threaded, massage, etc. I will make this a monthly ritual–no matter what!
Now I am not saying that everyday I am going to look like I stepped out of a magazine but I do know I never want to look like “that” mother— I want to be the mom that is stylish and that everyone wants to dress like.
So have any of you experienced a moment like mine? What did you do about it? Do you have anymore suggestions for me? We would love to hear from you!
Well I have this moment everyday I pick my son up in sleeping clothes I don't even bother to get dressed (believe me I am not the only one) I always keep my hair up and clothes I just started to buy for myself lately I always buy for kids first then me if any money is left. Take some time for yourself at least thats what people tell me I need to start taking the advice.
It is so easy to fall in the rut. I think you are starting off right with your attitude. Nothing will get accomplished if your mind isn't on board. Call me..I wanna go shopping to!
This year I promised myself to take time for me and so far I have been pretty good at it. Sometimes we forget that before mommy, wife and employee we are women and need to celebrate all that is fabulous about us! I LOVE your new monthly ritual!!!
I think this is fabulous!If you don't own slumpy clothes, you can't look slumpy lolI would recommend what I have been determined to do but in all honesty have slacked on, exercise regularly and some kind of fun aerobics that makes you laugh. It's hard not to look jazzy when you really feel jazzy
I think this is fabulous!If you don't own slumpy clothes, you can't look slumpy lolI would recommend what I have been determined to do but in all honesty have slacked on, exercise regularly and some kind of fun aerobics that makes you laugh. It's hard not to look jazzy when you really feel jazzy
It is so easy to fall in the rut. I think you are starting off right with your attitude. Nothing will get accomplished if your mind isn't on board. Call me..I wanna go shopping to!