I decided to go natural on December 19, 2010 mainly because I wanted to learn how to handle and take care of my own hair. I grew up going to the beautician every two weeks since about the age of 8. My mother loves to keep herself together and brought me up to be the same way. I have always been different with my hairstyles since I always experimented with different colors, weaves, braids, cuts, and styles in general. I only got a perm every 6 months anyway since my texture of hair allows me to be very versatile so becoming natural just seemed like the next step. I have always been very active in sports or physical activity which required me to just get a weave or braids so I wouldn’t have to deal with my “own” hair. After having my son I realized that I wanted to learn how to handle my own hair so that I wouldn’t have to spend a lot of time or money at beauty salon. I love all my stylist and will continue to use their services but just not as often as before. I remember watching numerous YouTube videos from women who went natural and I basically became a product junkie until I found products and styles that work best for my hair and my lifestyle.
2. Do you notice a difference between your relaxed hair vs. your natural hair?
The biggest difference is that my hair is fuller because it seems like when I relaxed my hair it would make it very thin or just not as full. My hair seems stronger and it is way easier to manage since I workout at least 5 times per week sometimes doing two a days. I love the versatility of being natural. I can sweat at the gym, going swimming, run, sit in a sauna and my hair can still look good. It is high maintenance because you do have to care of it but at the same time very low maintenance since I can just wash and go without having to worry if every strand is in the correct place.
3. Will you ever do the Big Chop? Why or why not?
I did a semi big chop after letting my hair grow out (and it was long) I cut my hair probably right below my ears. Then a friend of mine came over (who happens to be a stylist) and cleaned the cut up for me. I did not like my new look at all in the beginning. I thought wow you have really done something stupid and you look really crazy. I have a big head so it wasn’t crazy to be natural but short hair on this big head just did not look right to me. I do want my hair to grow and just be full and long but I do sometimes want a cut short and sassy cut. I have seen some short natural styles that will make you want to chop your hair off completely.
Currently I co-wash at least once or twice a week, deep condition once a month, and moisturize my hair daily. I usually have a twist out or a puff on top of my head. These two styles are the most convenient for me since I am an active person.
My favorite hair products are from Curl Junkie. I use Curl Junkie Curl Rehab moisturizing hair treatment (strawberry scent), Hibiscus and Banana Deep Fix moisturizing conditioner, Curl Assurance smoothing lotion, Repair Me (reconstructive hair treatment), Curls in a Bottle (finisher) and Curl Queen (styling gel). I love the Curl Junkie product line and my hair loves it as well. I also use Herbal Essence moisturizing conditioner (blue bottle only), Eco styler gel (green jar w/aloe) and Trader Joes Tea Tree shampoo and conditioner. These are my absolute favorite products for my hair and I have tried lots of products and had to learn to stop being a product junkie. I also have a mixture I make that I put on my hair as well which consists of black castor oil, shea butter, coconut oil, and jojoba oil. I even put this mixture on my skin so it last for a very long time with multiple purposes.
5. What curl pattern is your hair?
I have kinky curly hair with a very soft texture to it. I don’t get too much into the numbering system for hair types. My curls are tight but I elongate them by using twist outs or putting my hair up into a pineapple before going to sleep.
6. What hairstyles do you experiment with since your transitioning?
I kind of already answered this question earlier but for review I love twist outs, puffs, rods, flexi rods, and wash and go’s.
My friends and family actually love it! Many of my friends are natural or transitioning so they know what the process is all about and we hang in there together. My husband has always said that he doesn’t care what I do to my hair as long as it looks nice so I can do whatever to it and he is fine with it. My male co-workers actually love the natural hair and hate weaves so they like the natural look. Whenever I did wear a weave they would ask why??? I always thought this was funny and we have many debates about hairstyles as it relates to what men really want to see. I have always been versatile with my hair so anything I do people around me tend to be okay with it. It’s almost like they expect me to have something different or they will think something is wrong.
8. What advice do you give for other people trying to go natural?
I would say first know that this is a process. Your hair will NOT look like the next ladies hair at all. So make this decision for yourself and research everything. Have fun trying new products, experimenting with new styles and OWN your look. I have made many failed attempts at trying new hairstyles but I had the mindset of well we have to make this work today and try again tomorrow. Don’t give up so quick and stop putting all that heat on your head. You will never see curls if you always have heat on your head. It won’t happen. Also, go on YouTube and learn from all the different women and read different blogs to know you are not alone in this new journey even when that wash and go looks like a dry biscuit just wash it out and try again the next day. Moisturize, moisturize, moisturize you can’t do enough of this for your hair. Don’t get discouraged and do this for you. Some people like it and some don’t so do it for you. Also, drink lots of water, take vitamins and eat well. Your hair and nails will let you know if you are unhealthy. If they look like crap then your insides are just as bad. This was the best decision I ever made for me so make it the best one for you too! Have fun!
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