{The Mommy Struggles} Do You Curse In Front Of Your Kids?

All of us have done it. Accidentally hit our toe or tripped over something and all of a sudden that infamous curse words comes across our lips before you can stop yourself. Everything in the room stops and then all of a sudden you hear, “Mommy, that’s a baaaaad word!” You want to deny you said it but you know the kids aren’t going to buy it. You’ve been busted for committing the number one Cardinal Sin of being a parent—you cursed in front of your kids. Even the best parents have slipped up and let a bad word out  in a moment of pain of frustration. Many times we try to play it off so not to bring attention to it, but to our kid’s ears those words are like poison, so not only did they hear it but their waiting to see if it’s okay. Being the good parent you are, you reassure them that yes, that is a bad word and Mommy has to be punished.

I’ve been the parent who has slipped up and cursed and then felt so bad because I try to make sure I’m the example for my kids. I can remember one time cursing in front of my oldest child and for a week I would catch him saying the obscenity to himself. It took me a week to get him to stop saying it. I had to do something to make sure that my toddlers understood this was not appropriate language. I remember one time talking to one of my girlfriends and she was shocked that I put so much emphasis on it. In her words she said, “My kids know I curse, they know that I better not hear them curse.” I instantly judged her. What kind of parent openly curses around their kids but then expects them not to curse? Is that even logical? This example stuck in my mind as I decided what I was going to do to not only teach my kids but me that cursing is not allowed in this house—even if it’s an accident.

It had to be extreme enough so that my preteen didn’t laugh and that my two toddlers weren’t scared. I thought about acting like my tongue was going to get cut out but that would scare the kids. So I thought about what my mother would do in this situation. I instantly remembered the Dial soap and knew I had a plan. I called all three of my kids to the kitchen and I gave them a lesson that none of us will soon forget. I told them that not only was saying bad words bad/ but it was equally disgusting. So I told them I had to wash my mouth out with soap. They hollered and screamed in disgust as I did it. By the time I got done, the two toddlers were beside themselves shouting, “Ewwww, I’ll never say a bad word!” My twelve-year-old was less amused but just shook his head and said, “Mom, it’s not that serious.” My husband peeped his head in with all the commotion we were having and just chuckled at my craziness.

In the end, I proved my point with how disgusting using curse words are to myself and the kids. Now the kids watch me when I hurt myself or am angry and instead of cursing, I simply shut my mouth and just breathe in and out until I can regain my composure. I think I learned my lesson.

 

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Here I am 32 and accidentally a mother of three, naturalista, wife, business woman, budding socialite and self proclaimed "runnergirl". Follow me on my journey of living the fab life while trying to maintain my sanity. In 2010 I lost over 30 pounds by embracing exercise and running as a pastime. This is your place for everything it takes to be a BossyGirl .
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2 Responses to {The Mommy Struggles} Do You Curse In Front Of Your Kids?

  1. kita says:

    I cuss in front of mines they will hear it when they get older so I don't shelter them from hearing it. They know better than to use it in front of me. I always tell people that I cuss so don't bring your kids around me if you don't want them hearing it. My mom use to cuss me out since I was about 3 so I grew up with it never bothered me and I guess I am my mom because I do the same thing. Each household is different so I don't judge. I have a friend that does not allow it but her son has now picked it up from school and she is pissed at the school but it's not much they can do.
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  2. I don't curse around the kids at all, not even a little bit. My husband even goes as far as to spell out the cuss word lol! I never grew up with it, and although I do cuss from time to time, I'd rather my kids not.
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