ECU CODE:
For the past couple of days I’ve sat down numerous times to write about the tragedy involving NFL Lineback Javon Belcher and his innocent girlfriend, Kasandra Perkins. But each time I think to write, I shut down and I all I can think is SELFISH, SELFISH, SELFISH. I try to reason that maybe he (Belcher) was mentally unstable and was desperately seeking a release but still I keep going back to SELFISH when I try to write about that. It’s selfishness that will allow a man to kill his girlfriend after accusing her of staying out to late but he had spent the night with another woman. Selfishness.
The truth is I don’t feel sorry for Javon Belcher- his head injuries or not. I can’t feel sympathy for someone who murders his innocent girlfriend in the house where is 3 month baby and his mother is sleeping. What did he think was going to happen to his daughter? How would his mother explain what happened? How could he predict how alone his daughter will feel knowing both her mother and father are dead.
I really wanted to write a post and blame Belcher for every man who has felt entitled enough to want to ‘have his cake and eat it too’ but I know that that wouldn’t be right- or productive. Instead I’m writing this post to say what no one is saying about domestic abuse. It is real and it happens in households you THINK it would never occur in. All because Belcher was a NFL player and had a seemingly secure financial future there were obviously domestic issues. Abuse does not discriminate- it doesn’t care if you’re wealthy or ‘piss poor’.
Instead of staying in a volatile relationship, RUN in the opposite direction. Nothing is worth your life. Nothing is worth your children’s mother. Nothing is worth your mother’s daughter. Nothing. I can’t really speak anymore on this tragic situation. Instead tonight I’m going to pray for peace for Belcher’s daughter and mother.
As long as our society idolizes athletes, they'll continue to act in a way that says "BFD.. what are you going to do". There is so much tragedy in this story that I don't think any of us can fully grasp it. Too many victims. I'm not sure if the fact that they're talking about repeat concussions makes me feel better or worse. Is this going to become the new pro athlete "scape-goat" and get out of jail free card? And I close with this again – as long as we idolize athletes, they'll continue to be profit making puppets that are only worth anything when they're performing. It's a vicious, never-ending cycle and self-fulfilling prophecy.
You're right. We idolize not only athletes but musicians and entertainers. It makes me sad that we put so much respect to people who don't deserve it.
I actually wrote a blog post a few months ago about the way we worship athletes and entertainers. Nobody seemed to get it. But tragedies like this one were why I wrote it.
It makes me sad to think of that baby growing up without parents.
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I can't believe this story and I am outraged there has to be more I can't believe he would kill her for staying out when he was doing the same thing. People kill me with that telling others what they can and can't do but they do it themselves.
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The whole situation is beyond tragic. You're right, domestic abuse is real. There were obviously things going on in that relationship. My heart aches most for that baby girl. Man my heart hurts for her!!!
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