My Daughter Has No White Friends

14657536-group-of-young-multicultural-friends-posing-with-hands-on-hands-looking-at-youThe other day I was thinking about all of my 4 year old daughter’s friends and I came to  startling realization- she has no friends of different backgrounds particularly white. As I thought in my mind, I’m not even sure if she’s played with anyone of another race. As I thought about this I instantly became distressed. Not because she needs to have a token ‘multicultural’ friend but because I realized that maybe I haven’t exposed my daughter to all the various ethnicities and races there are in the world. That made me sad.

By the time I was 4 (going on 5) I not only had friends of different colors but the elementary school that I attended was predominantly Caucasian. At five I knew I was different from the other kids but to a five year old those things didn’t matter. By the time I went to middle school almost all of my friends were of another color. As I grew older I began to have more friends that looked like me, but I can’t tell you the lessons I learned by being around various cultures. I knew what Bar Mitzahs were. I understood what it meant to be Hindu and your parents dressed in strange (to an elementary student) clothes. I witnessed friends of mine that had difficulty speaking English and struggled with the language that I spoke so easily with. All of these experiences made me into an adult who appreciates all cultures.

But my children have grown up in different circumstances. My oldest son has interacted with kids of all ethnicities due to summer programs and trips we’ve taken but my youngest children not so much. So I’m making it a point to expose them to all things different. Everything from the food we at to where we live. It’s my job as mom to make sure my kids are ready for the world.

No, I’m not going to make my daughter befriend some random child due to their color but I will give her the opportunity to interact with children who are (and are not) like her.

My husband and I have even discussed possibly moving so that we can be in an even more diverse neighborhood –all in efforts to expose our kids.

I know there will be people who will ask me why I’m so ‘gunho’ on diversity, but I really thinks it makes kids more versatile when they have to get in the ‘real world’ and realize things are always ‘black and white’!

Do you make sure your kids are exposed to kids of all ethnicities and races?

 

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Here I am 32 and accidentally a mother of three, naturalista, wife, business woman, budding socialite and self proclaimed "runnergirl". Follow me on my journey of living the fab life while trying to maintain my sanity. In 2010 I lost over 30 pounds by embracing exercise and running as a pastime. This is your place for everything it takes to be a BossyGirl .
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4 Responses to My Daughter Has No White Friends

  1. You know… we could do a kid swap! I try hard to make sure my girls are surrounded by diversity and it's not always easy but it's so important. There's not a lot of it in our elementary school but luckily, that changes by the time they get to middle and high school. One of my oldest's bffs this year is an amazing african american girl who I love having around because she brings some great charisma and punch to our house. I always had a widely diverse group of friends when I lived up North and I feel like I miss a lot of that now that we're back in the south.

    Seriously.. if you ever want to do a swap, just let me know :)

  2. @Kreative10 says:

    Yes I believe in diversity so they know that color should not matter we are all people. One of my besties is white and her son and my son have been friends since they have been born they are now 6. I love seeing them play and grow we know they will ask the question of us one day on why their skin color is different and we are prepared to answer.

  3. Dani says:

    I'm gung ho about making sure my son has a variety of racial, and cultural influences as he grows up. I think it's important for all children to be exposed to people different from them and their families.
    My recent post 8 Months of Roey

  4. yayielle says:

    In my early schooling years, the majority of my friends were white and the area I lived in was predominate white. By the time I got to high school, it was like the United Nations because we had a mixture of so many different races. I loved it. My best friends today are African/American and Pakistani. My aunt would sent my cousin (lived in a primarily black low-income area) to stay with us for the summer, so she would meet my white friends and go swimming in their pools with us. After a couple summers, she commented "white people aren't that bad. I used to hate them." So I am really glad she got the opportunity to spend time with people of different races.

    When I moved to MD, I had to be in an area that was diverse, but with more of a white population. I lived in those areas for the first 9 years that I was here. Two years ago I moved to a predominately black area and it was truly a culture shock for me. I had never been in an environment where all my neighbors were black. The first week in the area, a box was stolen from the front of my door. Its been an adjustment, but I like my area. And I think its super important for kids to be exposed to various races and cultures to prepare them for real life.
    My recent post All About the Benefits Baby

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