Sorry I’ve been MIA. Life kind of caught up with me and I really abandoned one of my loves, this blog. I could make up some story of espionage and kidnappings, but in all truth, I’ve been sitting back plotting. I’ve been working on ways to bring in more revenue for me and my family so that I can work full time from home within the next five years. Seriously, while I love the steady paycheck from working outside my house, I need to start building my empire for BossyGirl Media.
So in true BossyGirl fashion, here are five things that can keep someone (ahem, me) from updating their blog:
1. Your incessant need to make sure everything is right. I can admit this. I’m a perfectionist. Once I get started on something I need for that something to be RIGHT. So for the past four months, I’ve been working on my Educational Magazine, The Educator’s Room and coordinating the release of 3 books through the company. That meant that I spent the majority of my time examining the market, having meetings and launching ideas on that side. While it’s a good thing to work hard, it’s bad when you’re up every night well past Midnight when you have a job to go to the next morning. To make matters worse I was spending entire DAYS on the internet. One of my goals for the second half of 2013 is to balance my time better so I have to realize that everything won’t be perfect.
Every time I sat down to write here, I kind of got all worried about what I was going to say and so I wrote NOTHING! That ends today. I’m bringing this blog back so I can talk “crazy” and let the world know my thoughts- no holds barred.
2. Your need to make money, money and more money. Being a perfectionist and wanting to make money can go “hand in hand”. For a while here on the blog, I became obsessed with making money whether that meant attending an event or reviewing a product. There were times when I didn’t write anything, but write ups for products. So just like a real boss, I’m done with that. Sure here and there I’ll review a product that I like, but for the most part I’m going to talk about what I want to talk about. Whether it’s about my anger dealing with the Trayvon Martin verdict or how ratchet people have taken over the airwaves, I’m going to do it.
The last thing I want to do is to make this blog “mainstream”. Instead I want the mothers just like me to read this and say, “YASSS!!” and grin because they believe in what I write about. Yes, it’s that serious.
3. Comparing yourself to others. Even though I’m having TREMENDOUS success with The Educator’s Room, just like anyone else sometimes I compare myself to others. I wonder why I didn’t get that opportunity or why something hasn’t happened for me. Well let me tell you. Comparing yourself to someone else is stupid. We all have separate stories to tell and no person’s story is like another one. So instead of worrying about someone else, I’m going to stay in my lane. It’s really that simple. ‘
4. Worrying instead of living. With success sometimes can come worry. Not worrying like where you’re next meal is coming from, but worrying about EVERYTHING else. There have been times I’ve been worried about trivial things like my weight (yes, I still need to lose weight) to how I’m going to arrange a media tour that have totally consumed my thinking. Looking back at all of my worries makes me realize just how silly I can really be. For the last couple of months, I’ve decided to pray about everything. I don’t have the mental capacity to continue to worry about things that I can’t change so instead I’ve decided to just pray and leave it be. Yeah, it’s really that simple. So I’m going to live and live well and let anything else that’s going to happen, happen.
5. Writing a book that exposes your last employer. I chuckle as I write this, but